If a man has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him. For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married. Deuteronomy 24:5
Ahh…that first year of marriage when my hubby was only concerned with the happiness of his wife… The food was always delicious, even though many nights it came out of a can. Nobody could’ve made better beef ravioli than me. It was the best thing he ever tasted! The cuddle time, oh the cuddle time. There wasn’t anything more pressing to do than snuggling up together in order to watch a good Iron Chef episode. Go out without his wife? He’d never want to do that when he waited so long to get married.
He’s still complimenting my food, although now I think it’s more of a fear that I’ll go on strike than it being the best thing he ever ate! We still love snuggling up together, however I know the arm trick after he thinks I’m sleeping. We’ve never tired of doing things together, but it sometimes has to be fought for. It can be difficult to simply find the time. If one of us just needs to sit around while waiting for the boys, it’s better to have company doing it. We can talk! Those long-suffering sighs of my loved one are really ones of pure contentment. Seriously though, we’re a team!
We give it our best to play a game in the evening or just spend some time together. He’s even made a date with me for when the boys were off to bed. I starved just a tad, but it was worth it! The youngest got into it too by helping him set everything up. Having some time with your spouse doesn’t have to be fancy or cost any money, it just needs thoughtful effort.
Guess what! I have a date tomorrow. A true, by ourselves, alone date! I think it’s been weeks…umm nope, maybe months…hmm I don’t think so, YEARS! It’s been years? Well, it really doesn’t matter what we do then, it’s going to be pretty special. The boys have an activity to go to that doesn’t require the hubby or me. I was thinking that we could get the grocery shopping done, but maybe that isn’t such a good idea. It does sound kind of romantic to stroll down the isle without items flying off the shelves into my cart though. Oh wait, the hubby WILL be there.
It is of vital importance that we make marriage a priority. It’s incredibly important for me to keep a strong relationship now, so we don’t struggle when it’s just the two of us. I love that man of mine, and even if the first year is well behind us, I can still look forward to many more memories. After all these years, my hubby is still dazzled by his wife!
If you’re married, no matter how busy you are, make sure to allow time for your spouse. Think back to that first year of marital bliss, and start trying to impress again. Your spouse deserves it as much now, if not more!
